I think YTA to yourself for staying with him. Setting aside the fact your husband is homophobic, you want a forever partner who doesn’t support your decisions? You mentioned you two never go out, so he didn’t even tell you you look good? He just immediately insulted you. You deserve so much more than this even if it doesn’t feel as if you do. I know I’m only getting a small picture of your entire relationship. But, he acted like this over lipstick which tells me everything I need to know about him.

Now, you’re also TA for saying you disagree with your husband’s “views”. Being homophobic isn’t a view. Putting it that way, someone not liking people of color is just a “view”. Lol, isn’t another view of his that the trials and tribulations of a black person and daily problems for a short person are equivalent? While homophobes thrive on trying to decide for others on how they should live, i don’t give a shit if you do or don’t stay with him. I just want you to know he’s awful and everyone perceives him that way and you will be perceived that way. You are who you hang with even if you claim you aren’t like them.