Any less romantically successful women here feel like crap when you see the "can't make guy friends because they keep crushing on me" posts because you can't relate AT ALL?

Here I'm much older than you and looking back at 20yo me I felt like I really wanted a decent guy to hang out with, someone who could still be friendly and have a sort-of relationship with... But I always ended up with one-date guys that felt threatened and felt I was going too serious or I wasn't pretty enough to hold my crazy. Also from listening to life experience from other people, the will to have someone (or several someones) buzzing around like it's happening to certain friends is completely normal. Your friends are dating and post all the details on social media. If they are dating why not me? And then I was crying in the kitchen, alone, even my gay friend bypassed me because the better girl in the gang wasn't there (yes, a gay guy didn't want to hang out with me and another friend because our blond-thin friend wasn't around). BUT (and this is middle aged me talking) I miss something about that life. I was free, do whatever I like, watch whatever movie I wanted to see, alone, go running every other morning, eating in my bed-who-cared. I didn't have that much internet time, I would write at the library as long as I wanted. I had a sketchbook, I would draw, go to class, do my homework... There's no need to get crazy, no need to compare yourself to your friends, you have a lot of time on your hands, use it to know what you really want and don't want. People will come around on their own, no need to chase them.

Wanted to specify that literally on my 20th birthday I was having a very bad relationship that ended even worse: spent all my time chasing guys in hope to forget others... In this rush to have always a date and a job (like my friends) I screwed my scholarship and ruined a couple of exams, skipped a full semester worth of classes and the boyfriend I was so desperate to have didn't dump me, but trying to keep up with him would take away all my life and energy. Sometimes being alone (and figuring out who you are) is better...

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