Anyone else feel like their SO is their only friend?

I am like this with my husband. We've been together over 15 years now.

I just want to say a couple of things, because I see a lot of people commenting on how unhealthy it is and suggesting that you make more friends.

My husband is my best friend and he is my only friend. Everyone else I would say are friendly acquaintances. I go out with other people without my husband (maybe once a year and usually regret it, lol) and I do playdates with other moms, but they are all very shallow relationships (for lack of a better word).

When I was in my 20's this concerned me. I kept thinking there must be something wrong with me, that my life couldn't be full without the deep friendships I see in TV or Facebook - or that I was missing out on something wonderful. I tried to force it upon myself, but the truth is, it always fell short because it's just not who I am.

And that's okay.

The fact is, I have an amazing marriage. My marriage has been easy. I mean I guess marriage takes "work" in that you need to be kind and loving to the other person, but all that comes very naturally to us. We have a marriage that works for the both of us and that's what matters.

Could it all fall apart? Sure, nothing is a guarantee. Should I lose my husband, all I'll have is my family, but I'm okay with that. There are always risks in life.

Another thing to note. Now that I am in my 30s, I have kids now. My days/weekends are so busy that tending to a healthy, robust friendship seems completely impossible to me. Easy for others - just not me.

And I guess that's the point that I'm trying to make. You can't look to other people to tell you what is right for you or what is right for your relationship. You know what sustains you. You know what your needs are and what fuels them. Now you just need to accept yourself as you are and be happy.

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