Yeah, I have a love-hate relationship with the term because I do actually use it myself on Reddit (not in real life, I do speak like a normal human being, but it's useful shorthand when everyone knows what you mean), but I hate how common it is as advice and how cavalier people are about it.

I mean, even if you do actually have good reasons, it's difficult and complicated. I had to do it with someone I love, and it was horrible even though it was really my only choice. And when he got into a better place with sobriety and treatment for his underlying health issues, I was happy to start rebuilding my relationship with him.

My MIL is another good example of how complicated it can be. I joke about it, but she actually is pretty abusive. But, if we cut her out of our lives completely, we'd also be cut off from a lot of other relatives on that side of the family. So we do this tricky little dance of my husband only talking to her on the phone a few times a year, and us seeing her maybe about every other year on average, just enough to keep that connection but not enough for her to actually hurt us.