Uughh, that one is very tricky! I’m a narcissist as well even though I don’t want to but it is what it is. The key is to admit that you are narcissist, understand what exactly shaped you, grieve all the childhood trauma, comfort your “inner child” and take full responsibility for your actions. It is hard and a therapist helps a lot. I mean not everything above mentioned you can do successfully alone. It takes a lot of time and you have to be patient. Your narcissistic need for perfection rushes you to change very quickly and be perfect but you have to try to resist this urge. Writing a diary can be a good way how to track your progress and vent your emotions at the same time. It can also be a place for your affirmations. Sometimes this whole process is very exhausting. You may feel like you can never get out of it, but you must remember that this is also you. You are you and you are good enough just as you are. People like you for you. Sure, you have your flaws - even the narcissistic ones, but you admitted it and you are willing to work on it. That is a first step to become better person. True, evil to core narcissist will never admit there is something wrong with them. That also means you have empathy. You can start using that more and explore it. Really try to help and listen to people even though you don’t benefit from it. And people around you start to notice. But remember, don’t try to change yourself completely. My therapist always says “even if 20% of your mom stays inside of you, you will always be the 80% and that is a success. We can’t suppress ourselves, this is who we are, the key is just stop blaming others (including parents) and take the responsibility.” Sorry for the long answer, I hope it helps you, be strong!