Ha. Ha ha. Yes. And it’s infuriating, because all the pieces have to line up or I lose interest. And unfortunately, this applies to mid-relationship as well. At the risk of sounding like a terrible person, if someone I’m dating drastically changes their appearance in a way that “breaks” my aesthetic attraction, my entire attraction to them falls apart. For example, when my partner gained a bunch of weight, especially as we hadn’t seen each other for several months bc covid, my brain legitimately failed to recognize him as the same person and it was like someone snuffed out a candle in me. Still working on fixing that, still feel awful about it because the emotional attachment and love and everything is there, it’s just that the other component fizzled and Idk how to fix that part