Am I demi?

hm, interesting. I had a similar thought process to yours prior. I came out as bi, had something with a dude I met in an online pride support group and we kinda mingled together. lost contact because of life. later on I thought I had attractions for a couple of others. until I got something for a lady friend - then those other attractions ‘died’ (they were more of a precrush tbf). pretty fucking confused because if I was bi then why wasn’t I in the mood for gay stuff, and also if people cheated on others all the time then why can’t I be attracted to these other people and it was just - this one person.

was getting pretty weirded out with what went on, then later on got rejected and thought hey there’s more people out there but…I still felt that same nothingness (save for a simmering interest over them). ultimate wake-up call was when I was ogling over some celebrities with a friend and when asked about an ideal date…I couldn’t think about anything. then I was like yeah this sounds pretty fucking asexual

I identified as aroace in my childhood, and earlier on I kept being called ‘innocent’ despite feeling that I was sexual, even if I didn’t know about the who. I would kill conversations by expressing intense disgust whenever my friends made vagina jokes (ironically one of them came out as a-spec later on). I had oe crush in the 4th grade (a bestie) and had nothing for roughly 10 years. I was told that college would “teach” me, but I feel very confident that my demisexuality is rooted in biology.

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