Most people wouldn't tell a poor person to just work harder.

Yes they would.

Also:

• Society looks down on people who don't date normally because it's usually assumed that if you can't find a partner then you're defective or something is wrong with you.

This is very narrow minded obviously, BUT:

1. You're insecure, and that's unattractive, so you DO need to work on yourself. Your mentality, specifically. AND:

2. You will never find the one only if you choose never to find the one. If you think positively and work on becoming more attractive, you will date without any issues.

Source: Practiced seduction during the night at bars and clubs for years. Seen it all.