Are you proud of your father?

Not particularly.

He worked out of town for 6 months of the year.

I'm convinced he has some form of OCD. He would get really angry whenever something was slightly out of order - water droplets on the mirror, finger prints on a window, shoes not placed neatly enough on the shoe rack. Not physically abusive but he would raise his voice, look exasperated and make me clean the entire floor if I spilled a couple drops of milk or something. Literally a couple drops of milk would result in a 20 minute ordeal of him lecturing me on how irresponsible I was, and getting out soap and water and scrubbing down the half the kitchen floor. Even then he would stand over me giving instructions on proper wiping technique, before taking the cloth and saying he'd do it himself, since it wasn't up to his standards. I lived in constant fear of tracking some sand or twigs into the house.

One time when I was 15, I didn't clean the toilet well enough and left some drops of piss on the bowl. He grabbed me by the hand, led me into the bathroom and said since I haven't figured out how to piss properly yet, he's going to have to teach me again, and tried to make me whip it out and pee in front of him. A this point I'd had it and said Hell no, I'm not doing that, if you're going to kick me out of the house then kick me out. He threatened to kick me out over stuff like this a couple time a year when I was a teenager. Never followed through on his threats. I stopped taking them seriously after a while.

He has some redeeming qualities and actually paid for most of my college tuition, but would turn into an absolute crazy person if any shiny surfaces were dirty. I used to be angry at him but I don't think he can control it. To this day I find him stressful and unpleasant to be around, I limit my interactions with him to family dinners and definitely don't do any father son bonding activities. He also didn't teach me any lessons about women or how to be assertive or anything like that.

Probably why I'm on TRP actually.

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