I’ve had 4 relationships lasting about a year.

4 whole relationships?!

wow look at mister playboy over here

go meet more women, go have more relationships, short ones long ones, overnight ones, learn to be open and honest with them, if somethings wrong tell them how you feel about it etc

if you dont do this during dating, if you go get an arranged marraige before you learn to do this your arranged marriage will be every bit as terrible and repressed as those relationships where you couldnt open up or whatever was the core problem, because you've never dealt with the core problem

you've brushed it off onto your parents to figure out, and who knows, maybe that does work occasionally, but id say thats the exception not the rule

its about working on yourself as well, dont kid yourself into thinking youre a perfect catch, you need to work on your shit too, she's gonna have flaws, you DO have flaws, dating helps you iron out these wrinkles