so instead of trying to reduce the use of the question that you yourself say is stupid and unhelpful, you aim to ensure that the question is also asked to men? further propagating the use of the question? if you cared about the question not being used, you would’ve just pointed out what you did in your edit on your first comment. you didnt. you said its weird that the question isnt ALSO asked to men. thats why you got downvoted so hard, even after the edit. your original comment and the edit on the same comment are directly contradicting each other. you cant say “weird that people arent asking this question more to guys too” and then edit it to say “people shouldnt say this at all its unhelpful and unproductive”. I get your point and i agree but the way you presented it made it look almost entirely opposite of what it actually was.