Be super-careful with the "don't show up" plan. It looks like you're agreeing with it because it's what you always wanted, but I feel honor-bound to rain on your parade: it is not a safe plan. If you do not respond to the suit, you don't get to make your case, so the judge assumes everything the seven people telling him is true.

If it's a suit against the estate, that's fine- the estate isn't you, and you've made that tolerably clear. But if it's a suit against you, and they claim you benefited unlawfully from the estate and deprived them of it, you could find a judgment against you for whatever your "family" (let's just go with "Dick Squad" instead) claimed the estate was worth, even though you never saw a dime.

A long shot? Maybe, but if that's the case they make, and the judge never hears anything different -- and he won't, if you don't present a case -- it's possible.

So as shitty as it sounds, if you're being sued, you have to show up. A default judgment is a real judgment they can collect on, and without knowing what they're trying to sue you for (and especially without knowing whether they're suing you or suing the estate), "don't show up" sounds like terrible advice.