That's really rough. I hate to even say it, but I'm sure she's always going to feel that way some how...but as she grows she's going to be so grateful for you. None of is can understand that void on the same level. We can put ourselves in their shoes and sympathize, but we can't possibly understand it the same. I think, as you said, I'd have that same heartbreak for the adopted child. It's wonderful when they are placed in loving homes but there will always be wounds that never heal and despite how much you try, it's not something that can be fixed.

I donread stories however, of adoptees that are over the moon for their adoptive families. I'm glad that those successes exist