22 years old both of you???? You are so young to adopt or have children? Anyway I don't know where you are from and if your place allows same sex couples to adopt, apart from that you need to fulfill some requirements to be eligible and it is also a whole procedure. Likewise, the perspective of adoptees, as you have seen, is very polarized. You had better go to conferences or meetings that are held on the subject, either by the adoptees themselves or their families, as well as studies conducted by academics (which by the way are very interesting) and professionals on the subject in question. I would also recommend that you consider foster children, i.e. those in foster care. Their view is also very important and they deserve to be heard. They could be adopted in the long run. This is another option before adoption. There are many factors involved in the success of an adoption and you should have help to basically deal with parenting if you have any problems. Look for solutions and always be open about it, as adoption used to be taboo and hidden. We don't want that for anything in the world. Communication is key in our relationship with whomever. Always with sincerity and at the right time.

As for adoption, I imagine you know that there is the closed and open adoption on the information and the relationship that is established between the biological and adoptive family. I can't say anything about that, my type of adoption was closed and it is international, and in Spain I have not heard of this type of adoption. And if it does, it is very rare.

In short, I would tell you to be calm. You don't need to rethink any of this, you are too young to be able to. For that, it would be better that you inform yourselves in the corresponding site or with the information that you have available in internet for a future.