There’s nothing wrong with you, me, or anyone else here. I think adoptees just see social and familial obligations differently than others and that comes off weird to people who haven’t been in our shoes. I would much rather be labeled a “loner” and be fine spending time solo, than be one of those people who needs to go out to some activity/league/club every night because they can’t sit still with their own thoughts.

I also don’t see a reason to keep people in my life just because I’ve known them a long time or have some tie to them. This has made my circle smaller over the years and I’ve felt lonely at times after cutting people who’ve done shitty things off, but I now have people left who I know are always in my corner.