This. At risk of breaking the circle jerk, I agree. I know that men are uncontrollable, abusive, rape machines on this sub, but if this situation was reversed the responses would be different. (Don't worry I am preparing a karma funeral already)

"I caught my boyfriend with many long conversations with a girl named Jaime. He bashed our relationship repetitively with her, they say I love you and talk about wanting to meet in person more often. I thought maybe I was reading it wrong but after a month I think he is cheating. Last night while he was in the shower I found the damning evidence. I told him to leave many times but he wouldn't. I physically pushed him hard enough to leave a bruise only to find out Jaime was a guy."

This is how the guy experienced this. I am not saying his reaction was right, but I am saying its understandable. He should have just left. But when you experience extreme emotions, like being cheated on, for the first time you sometimes lose control. This is not always indicative of a abusive partner, unless you are in extreme "they are definitely cheating" emotions frequently.
I wish this sub would be as kind, and understanding of men as they are with women. I wish they would take a step back, look with as little bias as they can, and give genuine advice. As it is, as a male, I have been straight hit by my girlfriend, with enough force to leave a bruise (more than she knew she could give) for making a joke in poor taste at a poor time. That was 3 years ago. I do not look at her as an abusive partner and after 5+ years she is still my favorite person.
Sometimes our emotions make us realize we are more extreme than we thought. How we react to our own behavior after that defines who we are, the extremes show us what we can be. And we all can be vile if we let ourselves.