3. CMV: "They're not obligated to..." is not a moral justification for someone's ac...

CMV: "They're not obligated to..." is not a moral justification for someone's actions.

Well if it's someone you barely know, I understand that. Hell half the people I've talked to on tinder (uh.. don't judge me) the conversation lasted for a day and we never talked again. There's really no expectation built on either side in such a short time period that it would be hard for anyone to really be upset about it. Not a big deal really. But if you've been talking daily for a month or so, maybe even gone on a couple dates, I think that's a bit more than "barely knowing" someone.

almost no one actually thinks it is the kind thing to do,

Well there are even people saying it is the kind thing to do, though... I've seen posts in /r/offmychest where people basically said "I feel like I'm doing them a favor by not having any further discussion because it will hurt less than if I told them directly" which I think is, most of the time, incorrect.

But that's kind of beside the point of this topic, I think the biggest issue with this "eh who cares" attitude is that it's normalizing inconsiderate behavior. It's making it seem like it's completely acceptable to just shut someone out of your life completely by ignoring them rather than showing people to face their problems and just deal with it with honesty and directness. (note: when I say "someone" I mean someone who's good to you. If someone was beating you every day or something, I can totally understand just getting away from it completely rather than trying to talk to them)

However, I do understand the point you're getting at. I think maybe a lot of the people saying "it's not their obligation" aren't actually saying it's an acceptable thing to do. But I feel like inconsiderate behavior like that should be condemned more. Maybe not condemned... that sounds like a lot harsher word than what I'm looking for, haha. But the point I'm getting at is that even though they may not be saying it's a morally good thing to do, it's an attempt to justify it as not morally wrong which I think is an issue. Ignoring your problems and being disrespectful to others is definitely not a good thing to do, but people just continue to normalize it and reaffirm their inconsiderate actions by making them seem inconsequential.

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