I sat down and rationally explained what the issue was, tried providing solutions, came in there with understanding and serenity. Never works. Ever.
each person believes they're taking part in completely different activities.
but yeh i dont think psych actually limits that category to comprimising
it's been like moar than 15 yrs, but im pretty sure it was just 'communicative' or something.. pretty much the same thing with minor variations
A relationship will always be a power struggle in the end.
oof dont go there. that's not true. that's only in relationships that either started or have already become 'adversarial' because of inherent incompatibility or bc of a slew of miscommunications and bitter battles.
idk u, but i don't wanna see erroneous logic negatively affect ur life.
they're rare, but healthy partnerships exist and they're not power struggles at all.. they're founded on mutual respect and the mutual ability to leave the other quite free bc of said mutual respect. i've seen it
think of it like friendships. maybe u've only ever had toxic friendships that have an element of that battle.. but they arent the only kind. i rid myself of the toxic college friendships and a few others i acquired after, and i realized there WERE ppl left over who would never abuse my trust.. cross lines to set precedents to surreptitiously gain moar pwr in the longrun.. would NEVER be more rude to me than they would ever be to a stranger, unprovoked.
that's something that DOES exist and is somewhat common, but it's also something that many ppl falsely believe to be a fairy tale. the saddest thing of all is that it's their bad, unreflecting logic that leads them, in turn, to becoming a machievellian person (bc they think everyone else is so they gotta be).
the real smarties... whether or not they believe others are capable.. hold themselves to a higher standard. FIRST, they fucking make goddamn sure they're NEVER fucking guilty of the sliiiightest fucking transgression. they dont use and manipul8 others, bc the golden rule clearly fucking sez right there don't do shit to others u wouldnt wantem to do to u
but yeah.. so u got these high iq mavericks that go their own way.. heartlessly cut ties with douchebags who abuse them.. develop their own character.. and low and behold... there's actually others out there in the world that ALSO don't fucking abuse every fucking person they ever get close to.
hope u can become one and find one for urself. it exists, is all im saying. take heart