I don't consider myself to have that fetish exactly, but I'm genderqueer and a sub, and if a dom told me to wear women's clothes, I would do so and probably enjoy it. It just wouldn't be particularly humiliating for me, and I would prefer for them to be actual women's clothes that an actual woman would wear, not the caricature-like costumes often associated with the sissy fetish.

But still, I see the appeal. Of course I can't tell you what it is for you, but I think for many, it's that they feel they'd like to explore femininity, but as men have been so conditioned by society to see that as a taboo that the easiest way to allow yourself this is by being "forced".

I understand and agree with the sexism issue, but I think that ultimately, this is not really a moral issue. You are not harming anybody. You are not degrading any actual women. You're just playing with a certain type of gender role. It's no more immoral than all the subs calling themselves somebody's "slave"; nobody would take that to mean that they or their doms actually support slavery.

I don't know exactly what "BBC" is, and it sounds like I would agree it's not something I'd like, but as you're saying, you don't have to do that.

I'm not the biggest fan of "daddy" or "mommy", just because personally, words like that make me think of my actual parents, and that's not very sexy. Others may not have that reaction to it. But again, I don't think it's a moral issue, it's not really all that more infantilizing than getting an over the knee spanking and being called "naughty."

I think the "goal" of any kink is ultimately to have fun with it. If you don't like this form of submissiveness, maybe you can just modify it and decide for yourself how you want to see this. I think you can be a sissy in a much more playful way.

I think basically, shame and guilt are feelings that should be reserved for things with which we have hurt others. You're not doing that. Of course, that alone won't make those feelings go away immediately. But maybe you can find a mindset and type of play where you are "forcibly" feminized without the aspects you don't like about it. I think that could help with the shame, since you seem to be basically ashamed in front of yourself, for doing things you're not comfortable with.