Thanks so much for your reply, Basically my wife was having an emotional affair with her boss at work and didn't even know it, she thought they had just become close friends and it was fine as it was her boss. She is a bit gullible and very friendly, as well as being very attractive. Basically her boss tried kissing her in a car park after a meeting on a Thursday night. She didn't say anything to me as she said she was way to scared to. It was my 30th birthday the next day and we were also leaving for Europe on holiday on the Monday. On Sunday she still went in to work and ended up on the road with him again going to some meetings but swears nothing happened and she felt she had to as it was her boss. I ended up finding out by suspicious calls and messages being all deleted from her phone. I interogated her and broke her down and found out about the kiss. I left and went straight to my parents house for 2 nights, I made her feel like a coackroach, told her parents, cancelled the entire Europe trip, told all my family, told the bosses wife (who trusts him and doesn't believe me) and also the big company boss (but somehow he is still employed there - I sometimes think about revenge but I think I would get myself into legal trouble if I ever saw him).
She quit her job the day after I found out, has cut off all contact, frequently breaks down crying and you can tell she is in disbelief at what she let happen. We have started counselling and she has even seen a pscyh by herself to understand why she let it happen.
The worst thing for me is the rollercoaster, I'll see her so upset and say its okay and we will work through it, then the next day I will rage for a few hours and ask her every little question, and was the kiss really a second and why did you do this or not do that etc etc, it's like I almost enjoy punishing her. Its only been 4 weeks so hopefully it gets better! She has been loyal and and a great wife for 8 years and I do think she is a good person, she is just too pretty and friendly for her own good.
Thanks!