Let me regale you with the tale of my most recent experience on a dating app (bumble). It was most confusing and heartbreaking.
He was super cute, college professor only 3 years older than me. (I'm 30). He said he was a feminist. I was like, jackpot! Cute, smart, funny, and woke? Yes please. He acted super into me. Texted me all the time (like, every few hours every day for weeks). Asked to see me 3 times in week one. He wanted to know intimate details of my life and shared intimate details about his life. Turns out we had many very similar experiences. He seemed to think I was pretty, funny, and interesting.
Things turn to sexting. We exchange many pics and talk about many naughty things. Interspersed in all of this he's telling me that he thinks I'm truly fascinating and special. He's acting like a person who is really into me on every level.
We were prevented from having sex due to us both travelling at the same time. So, we're finally back in town. We have sex.
Then he kind of... starts ghosting... The vibe definitely changed. I confronted him about it and he claimed to only be trying to "temper things". But he never explained what made him lose interest. He never gave me a proper farewell. He just drifted off into the night like a ghost.
I haven't heard from him since then. I seriously don't understand what the fuck happened. Would he have really put in all that work just for one night of sex? Would he really lie to me about all that just for one hook up? Or was I just spectacularly awful in bed?
I'll never know the answer, but I will always remember what happened. It's really been devastating. I completely trusted him.
Moral of the story? Everyone on dating apps has emotional and/or psychological problems (me included).
I wouldn't recommend looking at dating apps for a real relationship. I've heard of it happening, but the odds are pretty hugely against any relationship working out that started on a dating app. Dating apps seem to be good only for random hook ups and getting your feelings hurt.
Not trying to hijack your thread, just share my similar experience.