did learning your type help you in any way?

Actually yeah, I was a pretty agressive, quick to anger person. I hurt many people in the past bc of this, I reacted that way bc I was constantly living in survival mode, everything was an attack and everyone was my enemy. I was also fiercely protective of those special to me, I would basically scream and attack anyone who made them feel slightly upset, sometimes going against my loved one's wishes. When I started reading about my type I realized that my behavior stemmed from my childhood trauma, I was severely bullied and no one would stand up for me bc I was "the smart kid" and "mature for my age", everyone told me I had to be "the bigger person", I also had some shit going on at home which I won't get into bc I'm not THAT healthy and comfortable with being vulnerable lol, but basically I come from a very controlling household (1 mother and 6 father, both very unhealthy) in which i was also very emotionally neglected among other things. I realized I act like that bc l struggle to trust those around me and I feel a deep sense of grief and lose for my inner child and my innocence, so I reacted with anger. Just today I had to confront a situation in which I was boiling with anger, and for the sake of those around me I decided to take a deep breath and think through what I was gonna say or do. I feel kinda proud of myself ngl

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