Disadvantages and limitations of being a woman

It's going to depend on a lot of variables. For example a woman in Saudi Arabia lives a very different life than a wealthy, corporate woman in Manhattan.

Even in a country how you're treated will vary. For example I was able to get away with being a glittery, femme male in Chicago and while people sometimes looked at me with one eyebrow up, they didn't harass me often. On the flipside, even just being a semi-femme male, nothing even close to my rave days in the rural Midwest brought a lot of harassment. The same holds true for womanhood. It's not a universal experience we all share the same.

What do you think it's much easier as a man.

In some situations for some personality types, yes. But that's just as sexist if you ask me to assume it is universal. What if you're a non-confrontational, femme male? Watch out, the male world is likely to continually harass you if not continually violently violate you. Having been that femme male, the world didn't take me seriously. The world, from both male and female people, constantly were trying to force me to change. The gay male world was sexist as fuck, but male-on-male abuse isn't spoken about and isn't taken as serious as male-on-female abuse. By men when I was male bodied I was raped, molested, talked-over, talked-down-to, and had my personal boundaries constantly violated, etc. and unlike cis women I was subject to constant violence and forced into fights because I had a male body. A lot of the same things cis women go through, but plus all the shit AMAB people go through. So to assume all male bodies have it better is just... dangerously unaware. Note: The gay world is not all like that. I knew some really awesome gay guys.

Okay for myself as a woman.

It's easier to be me in personality most of the time. Except now when I'm assertive. Eventually living as male I figured out how to be assertive. I figured out how to hold my own in a fight. Those are usually looked down upon as traits in women, at least in my experiences. If you cut me off speaking and talk over me, I will stop the entire conversation, and I don't care how large the group is. That's not something AFAB children are taught to do.

I'm well within weight and considered very attractive, but I notice certain people feel very entitled to talk about how much I eat. Whereas before people never spoke about how much I eat. The irony that these men telling me this have a 40% higher BMI than me.

People stare hard at me. I know I'm considered very attractive, but before I used to be able to divert people looking at me. If I looked at someone who was checking me out before, they'd look away. Now, not so, they'll keep looking, and might even think it's an invitation. So I've had to learn to just accept people staring at me. That's not fun at all to me.

I haven't gone back to academia yet, but I've read a lot of stories about being in STEM as a woman. So I have myself mentally prepared for that. I've know a lot of women who have masters and PHDs in STEM too, so I've seen it first hand.

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