ENFP unlucky in love?

I am very transparent with my friends as well. No bullshit with them. Anyway, very interesting video. I am very familiar with the high level of consciousness. I have had many psychedelic drug experiences which have completely aided me in understanding myself, people, and the world we live in. Also seeing many different cultures while traveling and my inherent nature have made me very enlightened. I actually started writing a book about my philosophies and my life experiences which have helped form them. Usually I write at night because I just love the sound of cicadas, which I find the sound of to be conducive to deep thoughts haha.

My early dating history evidently didn't consist of necessarily "transparent" partners since I was young, naive, and didn't know any better. But, as time went on, I like to think that the guys I dated were honest in that sense. Some people just don't work out; doesn't mean that I am initially at fault. One of my tests when it comes to dating is on how deep of a level of thinking are they willing to get with me. If I see they have the capacity to think creatively, be open-minded, and connect with me; they have the initial green light. Let's not forget that due to our young age, people tend to act immaturely in romantic settings so maybe that is all there is to this.

But I think in certain situations, people can act out of character. The relationship with my last boyfriend was very open; we opened up about our hopes, dreams, and fears. We helped each other through difficult personal issues as well, respectively. And maybe that was the only purpose of that relationship; kind of a transitional phase since it didn't make sense for us to be together longterm anyway since I was moving to Europe for a year and he was still in college. But during the first few months when we tried to make it work long distance, it just sucked and he didn't act like himself. And maybe since I wasn't physically by him, it was easier for him to lash out at me. You know?

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