That's a pretty callous attitude. Admitting that a LOT of people are completely unfairly biased against trans people (trans women specifically) is not being a "special little snowflake", it's fucking fact.

So you want more reasoning as to why I think my dick is part of it, did I just not enumerate enough? How about the time where the host of a casual party asked to demo his new electrostim unit on literally every girl's ass (a total of 7) except me, when he knows I would consent and I had hung out with them all a billion times? Or this super fun other time in an overtly kinky game of truth or dare where three separate people just dared me to "take a shot" when I picked dare; real confidence builder right there.

Nobody owes me anything, and not everything is because i'm trans, but there's too many convenient coincidences for me to believe that this would be anywhere near as difficult if I wasn't different, and that is what's killing me.