r/weddingplanning Finally not jealous!!! u/-taradactyl- This weekend FIVE people I know got married and for the first time I'm not jealous looking through my FB and instagram feed. I am genuinely happy and excited for them.

My FH and I dated for 4 years before he proposed and he thought it was a fast proposal. For so long it was hard to see people who met after we did getting married when my FH thought it was too soon even though we'd been living together and felt like we were married.

We've been engaged since September and getting married in October and I guess I've hit the point in wedding planning where it's finally sunk in that we're getting married and I'm no longer jealous or resentful.

Thought some of you might be able to relate or be finding peace with me.

CONGRATS TO ALL OF US!!!!!

7 Comments19 Best Write a comment wedditerApril 1 & July 3, 2017 • 8h Definitely! It drove me nuts when people who had been together 25% of the time we had, got married and somehow made it seem like their relationship was "more legitimate" than ours!

9 -taradactyl-Virginia, USA | 10.1.17 • 1h It made me feel like their love was more intense or somehow better.

2 Hakoyanagi • 1m When me and my attention-seeking cousin were 20 years old, our older cousin announced she was pregnant. So my cousin of the same age announced she also was a week later. After quite some chaos, she gave birth after 13 months and manipulated her boyfriend to make him believe the baby was premature because she had "changed fathers" and so they only had been like 7-8 months together. Meanwhile, I already had been with my boyfriend for 2 years.

4 years later she has three kids. Me and my boyfriend started discussed marriage. He plans to propose to me once I'm back from my exchange semester overseas. But we want to wait 2-3 years for the wedding to save up and be done with our diplomas. So I am pretty sure that as soon as she hears I'm engaged she will push her boyfriend into a wedding, like she did after the other cousin announced her pregnancy... And I'm a bit sad she'll get a wedding before mine because she wants the attention... For this reason I'm hesitant to announced the engagement until the wedding is planned.