Same here brother. You have a year on me, but our situations are very similar. While we aren't married, my girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. We were both coworkers, but now we work at separate offices. She was my supervisor when I first started my job, but for 2 years prior to us getting together, we would sit and talk about anything and everything when work was slow. Eventually, we exchanged screen names (remember those?), and would chat online at all hours of the night. Eventually, the chatting turned to flirting, and I asked her out on a date. She was apprehensive at first, which I understood, as we were coworkers and she was my supervisor at the time. A short time later, a mutual acquaintance was having a retirement party, and I asked her if she would like to ride with me. We went and socialized a bit at the party and enjoyed ourselves. After we left, I asked her if she felt like doing anything else. I asked her if she would like to head to the local beach and hang out a bit. Well, a bit turned into many hours laying on the beach making out, then it was 1am all of a sudden. To this day, we always joke our first date was a retirement party. Looking back, every other girl before her was nothing more than a fly-by. None of my previous relationships made it past 6 months. She's the best partner a man could ask for. For what it's worth, she's total opposite of me, an ESFJ, but we seldom have conflicts. She always makes me step out of my comfort zone and do things I otherwise wouldn't. Many things I have enjoyed, some I haven't, but she for sure has helped me become more well rounded individual. She has never tried to change me into something I'm not, as others have in the past. She loves my quirkiness, my insight, my sense of humor, and my wit. We complement each other well. She may not be the best looking, but who cares? Some people worry about how good looking the person on their arm is and don't care much about anything else. Gotta find a happy medium somewhere, and I found it.