For those who aren't FA. Why do you come here?

This is a fool's challenge. No one's body is perfect, and you'd have to be a complete idiot to think posting a photo on foreveralone won't result in harrassment.

It's a perfectly reasonable request. You have dismissed the advice as invalid. I want to see that you have indeed implemented the advice before coming to this conclusion. Otherwise it's not the advice that's invalid, it's your dismissal of the advice that is baseless.

"oh, you aren't cut with abs, and you're not wearing the latest GQ?! NO WONDER YOU ARE ALONE LOSER"

I didn't say this, you said this, I'd appreciate if you would refrain from putting words in my mouth.

when obviously, the great majority of people do not meet those ridiculous standards and seem to get along in society just fine.

The question here is not what "great majority of people" do or don't do. The question here is how can someone who is FA increase his or her chances in attracting a suitable mate. This advice, building a model's body + dressing well + getting a great haircut, when APPLIED, undeniably increases one's chances of getting and keeping the attention of their sexual or romantic interest.

The problem is that engaging in mental gymnastics that you have just demonstrated ("no one's body is perfect", "you are degrading relationship issues", "the majority of people", etc.), otherwise known as excuses, is much harder than eating clean, and working out every other day, and getting out of your comfort zone by changing your style and haircut.

That's why there are so many people who say "this advice is too generic/this is crap/you don't understand me/etc.", and so few who actually take the advice, implement it, and enjoy the inevitable results.

Would a model's body and a fashion sense fix ALL your relationship issues? Of course not - you'll still have to learn how to talk to women, not be clingy, etc. But everyone has issues. Even normal people, even attractive people, even people who are in relationships or are married. And there is no magic bullet that solves all the issues.

However, becoming fit and well dressed, which pretty much everyone can do unless they have an actual birth defect or a disease, will put odds in your favor.

You can throw more excuses at me, but by doing that you are only going to hurt yourself, because I, although single by choice, have no shortage of suitors, it's you who is self-proclaimed FA.

Or, you can send me a PM, I'll take a look at your picture, give you some advice on how to get started with nutrition and exercise and maybe clothes, and then you can make a plan of eating clean, hitting the gym on the regular basis, and updating your wardrobe (obviously not based on my advice only, r/lose it can give you weight loss advice, r/fitness can give you training advice, r/malefashion can give you fashion advice, etc.).

Pause, take a moment, and think, which choice is more likely to lead to a positive change in your dating life within the span of 1-2 years?

I think you already know.

/r/ForeverAlone Thread Parent