Been steady with a guy I met from Tinder for a couple of months.. like every day hanging out for the last few weeks. I think we have good communication but we haven't talked about what we're looking for really (it's just not how I do things, I treat OLD as a way to meet people and act from there).

Anyway recently he mentioned thinking a couple of random women we saw out last night were cute, and that he works with a "hot old lady" who I asked if he had a crush on and he said yes lol. I think this is kind of fun and makes me feel more secure in some ways that he feels comfortable saying those things, but it does trigger an insecurity of mine about my looks. I am not possessive and trying to practice being cool, and logically I'm fine with it and enjoy knowing those parts about him, but I'm not sure how to manage my insecurity. I know with 85% confidence that he isn't going to pursue these people. Obviously I find other men attractive and will talk to them too, so I get it which is why it doesn't bother me and find it refreshing he can just say it and not have it be a big secret or anything.

I have a history of being very jealous so I'm trying to change this about myself. I really appreciate the open communication and would rather have that than ask him not to tell me. I just laughed it off mostly and tried to move on gently.

TLDR: how to accept that partners find other people attractive? or is this him expressing that he doesn't want to commit to me lol