"Gifted" students, what was it like growing up as "the smart kid"? Has it affected your adult life in any way?

Actually yeah - real-world consequences led to it shaping my personality in an interesting way.

I was a very smart kid. I got along well with my brother's friends, who were roughly 3 years older than me at any given time. Never had more than one friend at a time my age. I was also about 3 years undersized, so making friends my own age didn't work out well, and making friends 3 years older, even less so.

But, I was intelligent. I could understand concepts and humor and make insights. I could hold conversations with adults more easily than kids. Sure I lacked most all experience and knowledge, but the requisite intelligence was there. Adults didn't humor me, they enjoyed speaking with me. And I them.

So who does that leave me to talk to and interact with? Teachers, of course! Throughout elementary and middle school, my best friends were teachers. In terms of people I could make witty comments to, who would respond, and understand, and laugh at the same things I laughed at.

This wasn't a 'teachers pet' sort of thing - never did my homework. But fundamentally my mind worked more closely to an adult than any of the kids I ever got to interact with.

So what does this have to do with today? Teachers weren't "role-models I looked up to". They were my friends and peers. And naturally, you pick up the traits and tastes and preferences and behavior of your peers, not as an aspiration, but simply as a way to fit in. And that's what happened to me. I learned to 'adult' from a very young age because all my peers were adults.

Except teachers aren't real people. They're people on their best behavior. However they felt on the inside, they were always polite. Jokes about sex were crude and incredibly childish. Most things kids did to 'act mature' were childish. (Ignore how clearly immature the large majority of adults on, these are people on their best behavior around children!)

TL;DR My personality, sense of decency, derision for sexual humor, and overall personality-of-a-60-year-old was deeply ingrained by middle-school, and persisted all through college and up to now, because from very young age, all my friends were teachers, lying acting through their teeth about being mature and dignified and patient and respectable. I'm much more of a prude and a stick-in-the-mud than the very people I learned the behavior from.

Wouldn't change it for the world. Gives me a smug sense of superiority for my 'character'. And you know how superior we smart-people like to feel! But it's funny to look back and see how my personality got it's shape. It's because I naively believed that adults were as mature and nice and they pretended to be, and I naturally picked it up because I was the average adults intellectual peer by age 8.

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