Make sure you don't string them along for nearly 9 years or if you have and you don't want them to leave you might wanna roll up your sleeves and get to work quick smart because they will be at breaking point after no effort having been made to progress the relationship in almost a decade because take it from me, I feel like a bit of a fucking idiot for waiting this long to snap and have him physically removed because he doesn't want to make any changes to fix the relationship but he doesn't want to leave me either. That is fine if he doesn't want to marry me, but he should step aside and let someone else who wants to, Don't get me wrong, I love him, but I feel like this is kinda unfair,