I am a bisexual who only dates bisexuals because I am 35 and come from the 90s. So, the non-welcome from gay and lesbian communities where bisexuality was "transitional" as a community norm. Led many of us (and the first trans people I met in my life) to seek places that accepted us. Goth/punk was the main one at the time.

I would guess from what I have seen with peers, that she feels like your sexual orientation or pressure to conform to it will matter more than hers. I know my MAJOR thing about the bi-seeking-bi thing is that I am never going to be gay or straight and playing that role would not sustain. She's going to still be bi etc. Some bi people are fine with assimilation. Most of the ones here hate their opposite sex attraction association to "straight"

Look at Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. She was the model 90's confident, middle fingers in the air example of bisexual and the moment she married Brad Pitt, they became the British Royals of American heterosexual power couples. And despite all the specifics of it, I don't doubt the boiling fury that I have seen bisexual women divorcing husbands in my peer group having to do with her identity doesn't play a role.

I can say being bi and with a bi woman, that you will get a lot of 'YEAAAAAHHH" crap from the straight men you know because they'll assume that you're "freaks". And you can be "freaks" too. My girlfriend and I both are with our best friends, another bisexual couple and that's cool but we are or are not obvious.

HOWEVER, you have to shut down those dudes in "bro talk" when that comes up because when we are or aren't kinky, it isn't for the enjoyment of people who can jump on pornhub.

My VIEWS DO MATCH YOURS on sexuality with the exception of partners. I tell people who now get accused of biphobia for saying they don't buy bisexuality that I don't care and don't blame them since they are not bi. The bisexual women and men in my subgroup of bi people are not associated with LGBT and I personally think that bisexuals being shoved into this is not healthy or even rational since we are also by definition straight and it seems like illogical.

I mean, we're closet cases if we are bi and in the "straight world" which, by the traits we have that are heterosexual but when we go hard line rainbow flagger and hate heterosexuality and place homosexuality as the sacred cow, even though they are to us the same as you in the identity sense, minus the oppression history.

This is the Gay male norms which expects even us bisexual men, that you guys deal with to baby them and when it's the other way around, when they are the ones being nasty or impossible etc, there's no responsibility on their end. They tell women all the time that we're gay just to be spiteful and nasty, and despite that, we can't get angry with anything gay men have done because they have a martyr complex that have people hijacked.

We've been hearing the same "feel guilty for your existence" nonsense from them for years before they manipulated heterosexuals into panicking every time they throw a fit. The double standard shit is nuts. But the bi women on this page are the tumblr demographic who will bombard you like they do with us bi men all the time. They never seem to empathize with us in the themes I mentioned there and while I don't care, that makes me glad that in the 1990s, we were excluded.