What are you doing to preemptively stop these messes that apparently supersede your toddler and his well being?

I’m hearing a lot of things that you’re complaining about your wife doing that, in the grand scheme of things, could be helped if you lended a hand rather than stood by and watched like she is solely responsible for the child the two of you created.

Yeah, it will drive you crazy when you choose to focus on the negative things that occur in a relationship and marriage and situation that you also chose.

You’re married to another live, human being with differences from you and how you do things. Get counseling, learn how to communicate, and get over yourself. I’m sure there are things you do that make your wife want to leave. I’d bet on it.