My husbands Fleshlight is ruining our marriage.

What a doo doo head. But seriously, OP, he has to work through whatever his issue is. We all know that masturbation is not better than sex. Sometimes, our own mental and emotional issues get in the way of enjoying actual sex. For example, my issue is that I place too much emphasis on "making love" and can't actually enjoy it for what it is. But whatever his thing is, he has to get into some counseling. Shouldn't be a huge long term thing, but who knows.

Side comment, I feel like I need to say this, because of what I wrote above I recognize that sex can sometimes be undesirable for many many reasons. Like in a case of abuse or emotional manipulation and whatever. I don't see any reason to think that in this thread.

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