You’ve done the self reflection and had the realization. GOOD. Use it to grow. Do the right thing. Cut both of you loose. You can both still have beautiful lives. You need to be proactive in this though. Don’t waste anymore time. Don’t make anymore excuses. It’s scary because you’re comfortable and it’s what you know. It’s scary because you failed. It’s scary because you have to look at yourself, admit you were wrong about everything and that you’ve made some terrible life decisions. I think one of the biggest problems in todays culture is lack of honesty. And I think we lie to ourselves the most. There’s no critical thinking. There’s no self reflection. People live mechanical lives. People can’t look at themselves and admit they messed up. Making themselves better is too hard. Make yourself better. Allow yourself to learn. Allow yourself to be happy.