You came to reddit and asked for people's input.

Didn't I already tell you not to bother offering any more "advice"? Telling isn't it, how you can't resist spreading your toxicity. No, Ben, I came to r/stoicism looking for people who are more familiar with the philosophy of stoicism than myself in relation to a particular question I posed. Not cod-psychologising from patently malicious actors with no knowledge or critical thinking skills. Ask yourself: Do any of the Stoics use your hectoring, sanctimonious, hate-filled tone? No, they don't, they write with calm understanding and acceptance of human nature, recognising that human beings are all part of the same chain of being. You latch on to Stoicism as a convenient pretext to act like an judgmental macho hard-ass. But that's not stoicism, Ben. That's just being a dick...