How do others perceive you and does it fit your self-image?

Most people perceive me as quiet, intimating, maybe aloof as well. I've also been told a few times that I'm the most laid back person they know. A lot of people don't really talk to me, though I've never asked why. I'm probably seen as judgmental, maybe even racist or sexist at times because I'm a realist and have a tendency to tell shit how it is in this age of politically correctness, even though I'm quite young. And that does bother me greatly because I'm not, so I tend to keep my opinions to myself because I don't want people to misjudge me just because I don't agree with them. People probably think I don't like talking to me, or don't like them at all, but in reality I just don't know how to hold small talk very well besides making dumb jokes.

In reality, I'm super sensitive and anxious. I'm very polite, every other thing I say is "thank you" and I'm constantly thinking about everyone else before me, even strangers. Unless they've shown themselves to be disrespectful, in which case screw them. I get upset pretty easily but don't really show it and I brood over things a lot. I help people a ton. If I see a car broken down on the side of the road or at a gas station, I'll usually pull over and try to help. I buy food for homeless people and give money whenever I have spare cash. Hell, one time, this vegetarian guy at work accidentally ate meat and was looking for gum, I overheard him, and I took it upon myself to search around for some gum or mints for him. I'm pretty sure the dude doesn't even like me, and I failed to actually find any for him, the store was out and none of the vending machines had any, but I've never told him about it. Hell, this is the first time I've told anyone how much gratification I get from helping people and even now I feel like I'll be perceived as just rubbing it in.

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