My ex would not work with me on this. I have looked into it. He is too busy planning a wedding and being a better future step dad to her kids than a Dad to his own kids. He doesn't seem to understand that my financial situation impacts the kids but he also says that him leaving didn't have a negative impact on the kids, either, so I don't really know what he is doing with all that IQ he has. It certainly isn't being a decent understanding human being. The house is in a weird limbo where I have legal documentation that it is solely my house but the mortgage is in his name so nothing can be done with it until the mortgage is gone and I can get his name off the deed. But, seriously, bitterness aside. He doesn't even speak to me when he picks up the kids, and despite marrying someone he works with, tells everyone he left me because I am bad with money, no one believes that reason. Ironically, I am only in this situation BECAUSE he left me. I was the one with money when we married, and he had nothing, and I used all my resources to build US a good life then he runs off with it.