Exactly, the people villifying your husband are way off. Yes, he did some selfish and awful things, but he also did some very selfless things and made a couple honest mistakes.

My wife is also in early pregnancy (and also had the flu earlier this month), and I do a ton of stuff for her. But if I forgot the marinade, she wouldn't demand me to go back and get it, she knows I'm exhausted and stressed and that I'm trying my best. Was the marinade really important enough for you to risk you and your baby's health? Just go without it or improvise! Do you thank him when he does do things right? I really hope you do. He seems super stressed out and your yelling at him isn't helping him to do his duty better.

But, as you said, the truth is somewhere in the middle. You're both being insensitive, and he's moreso, but the way to resolve it is not to point fingers but to have a real discussion about how to have healthy, positive respect for one another. After you get over your flu, that is. Best of luck.