Not sure if it'll help but I can share my story/method. I'm 36 Aspergers married 12 years to NT. I did not know what I had until age 36, but I did know that I differed from other girls when it came to dating (guys would tell me).

1) Come up with qualifications. They will serve you well in that you can semi-control who you marry AND filter out the duds at the same time. If you choose filters, choose at least one that will reduce the possibility you will be taken advantage of.

2) Play the numbers game. The more guys you meet, the faster you will come across someone who is right for you. People like to say "forget about finding a husband and focus on yourself - it'll happen when you aren't looking." Not true! Guess what? The 2 people who told me to relax and stop husband-hunting are still single to this day.

I feel that online is best for playing the numbers game because you can rule people out a lot faster than in person. Online is also best because the social cues become irrelevant. I know you said online didn't work out, but I can only share what worked for me. YMMV.

3) Be yourself. No false advertising allowed. If they are put off by you, then you WANT them to be scared away. (Good riddance!) I liked to ask them on the first date how they felt about marriage. The ones who said, "woah slow down!" are the ones that got the boot ASAP. I also liked to break a few social rules to see how they reacted.

The way human mating goes is, the man will pursue the woman. You don't need to be able to tell if they like you or not. If you want to talk every night, someone who likes you will pick up that phone and call you every night. If you have to ask if they like you, they probably don't like you in that way. I am autistic enough that I can't make or keep friends, but romance was a breeze. Really, you don't have to do anything (until you are actually IN the relationship). We are lucky to be born female Aspies in that regard.