Sensory issues sleeping with my partner

Yes, I was in a relationship for 20 years and it only got better when we were able to have separate bedrooms and I placed boundaries around the things I need to regulate. This only came though after I burned out and it forced me to take a hard look at my people pleasing tendencies and give up the narratives I held around what was "normal" to do in a relationship. I also realized that yes, these are truly needs I have and that I suffer if I'm not able to meet them. Please, if I can give you any advice it would be to listen to and honor your sensitivities and don't push yourself to the point of burnout like I did. Find a way to have a relationship that works for both of you.

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