Our safeword was "No" or "stop"... we'd never needed a safe word because no never meant yes. If there had ever been an issue we just said something. We never did anything designed to hurt the other. It was just control stuff. I didn't do anything that night designed to hurt her, or that could have hurt her. The slapping part was with the tips of my fingers from like a half inch away. As for holes in my "story" there aren't any holes because everything I've said is the truth. My wife was happy the night this happened. She went out to get my heart monitor from the car after we were done, and when she came back in she snuggled up next to me on the couch. She fell asleep with her head on my shoulder, and I took her to bed. I tucked her in, and gave her a kiss on her forehead. I loved her, and I would never hurt her. If she had been upset she had a friend that lived right next door she could have gone to. If she had been upset she could have just gone to bed alone when she got back with my monitor instead of coming over to snuggle with me. Even the next morning everything seemed fine. The only thing I can think of is that I was in a really bad mood that day because of all of the stress from trading. I think that she combined the memories she did have from the night before with me being in a bad mood that morning, and decided that something bad had happened. If she would have just talked to me though... If she had just left a note, or told me how she felt... We could have worked this out together. I could have told her what happened. My stint in jail was for theft. I got depressed a while back, and I was trying to come up with enough money to get to Philadelphia to see an ex of mine that had asked me to come see her. It was stupid, and I got caught. I spent months in jail waiting for trial, and it was the worst 6 months of my life.