Hello, friend. There is not much advice anybody can give you here to really make a big difference. These are complicated issues that you have and that you need to talk about and try to figure out. You need to be patient and non dismissive of a therapist and of trying a new anti anxiety medication. Anxiety specifically tends to be difficult to treat but when it's in control, patients become so much happier. Start with a psychiatrist and then find a psychologist. Both take time to have effect but you might as well see a therapist while you have meds to help you.

Please keep trying to work with somebody. It's OK if you don't like him or her but to say that all your therapists have been poor makes me think that maybe you need to be more patient with them. If I approach you telling you how everybody in my life is just so dramatic YOU HAVE NO IDEA you'd probably think I'm the dramatic one!

Sorry to hear about your chronic medical problems I understand how it's extremely frustrating to not have an answer.