So I just came across your post about having a kid or rather hesitant about having one and I'm going to throw my 2 cent rant into this. There are alot of negatives that come with it, your life does change and your life now revolves around that child ( for good parents) for years you don't get any sleep and you loose friends because they don't wanna hang out at the kids park. Your mental and emotional WILL be tested in many ways. You'll realize things that are unlikely to happen now becomes a focus point of an unexplained fear almost. You'll get covered in puke pee and poo and at some point it'll get in your mouth your house will be a wreak and probably covered in puke pee and poo. You will question if your a good parent and if your what the kid needs you'll question if you were really ready to have one. Money will be stretched and you'll start finding unique ways just to afford diapers. Everyone says to wait until you are more finicially stable but you'll never get to that point. Their temper tamptrums will be ridiculous and the teen year will feel like you can't get anything right.

That all being said though the first time you hold your kids is a undiscribable moment, the day the say mom or dad the first time will be so exilerating. You will fall asleep with them laying on or beside you and the 10 minute nap will be the most sleep you've had in your life, you'll fall asleep in their crib at some point just so they are comfortable.... and it'll still be good sleep. The moment your putting them down patting their back and they are fighting the sleep and their little hand starts patting your back too or how their hugs are actually terrible but you can feel how tight they are trying to hold you and that's what makes them so great. Holding their hands while they walk across the street and climb stairs is great, not as great as watching them fall the first few times on their own though. You'll catch yourself making dark jokes because you know they have much brain and can't understand you. They will get scared over the dumbest stuff... like airplanes and I mean dumb cuz they will like airplanes but still fear them but still love them and you'll wonder what sence does that logic make but it don't matter when you pick them up and they tell you to stair into the sun looking for the airplane too. You'll spend so much money on a gift for them to want the box but it's just as adorable my point is yes kids are awful and you'll never be ready to have them. Every negative thing being said is true, but so is all the positive thing and no one can tell you if you should have one or not. There will be countless bad moments and probably more bad moments then good. But the good moments outweigh the bad tenfold. now obviously this is my opinion but you have to make your own. If you decide to have kids remember that it's ok to fuck up, just don't be fucked up. It's not you that it will matter to in the long run