I didn’t list any explicit examples but the observations I’ve made are that he has an obsession with porn, I think with talking to random girls online, really secretive phone habits, staring at every single woman that walks by like he’s starving….those sort of things. I indulge all of his sexual interests so it makes me feel inadequate.

This is not something I’d usually be insecure about but because of the nature of our relationship I doubt how much value I bring to his life outside of sexual. I don’t make as much money, can’t contribute as much around the house, etc.

My reason for posting here is mostly to take the temperature of men who might also be dating someone younger… maybe what I’ve listed are obvious red flags that I’m blind to, maybe many men list after women but won’t act on it. Why wouldn’t you if you have an obviously impossible dead end relationship?

I can imagine that a well-off, attractive 50s man is going to do whatever he desires with whoever regardless of the relationship he’s already in. I just feel like garbage being invested and worrying about this sort of thing.