And if you say 'I'm here for anything you need', actually mean it, or say nothing. When my dad committed suicide this year, I was 3 months out of a serious relationship. When she (me ex) heard, she got in touch with me just to say hi, which I thought was nice. She also said she'd be around for anything I needed. About a week after he died, I was alone and in a tough place. I called her and asked if she wanted to get coffee or something, that I needed a distraction, and there weren't many people I trusted with the emotions I was feeling. She told me her new relationship was getting serious and she didn't think that was appropriate. I had zero intentions of rekindling anything, just wanted some company. Needless to say, I have completely subtracted her from my life, and have close to zero respect for her, or her word. In our time of grief, we hear 'let me know if you need anything' more than anything else. It really starts to lose it's meaning quick, it sounds like a cop out.

And if you say 'I'm here for anything you need', actually mean it, or say nothing. When my dad committed suicide this year, I was 3 months out of a serious relationship. When she (me ex) heard, she got in touch with me just to say hi, which I thought was nice. She also said she'd be around for anything I needed. About a week after he died, I was alone and in a tough place. I called her and asked if she wanted to get coffee or something, that I needed a distraction, and there weren't many people I trusted with the emotions I was feeling. She told me her new relationship was getting serious and she didn't think that was appropriate. I had zero intentions of rekindling anything, just wanted some company. Needless to say, I have completely subtracted her from my life, and have close to zero respect for her, or her word. In our time of grief, we hear 'let me know if you need anything' more than anything else. It really starts to lose it's meaning quick, it sounds like a cop out.