“Old” person checking in: Let’s not act like people don’t care. They do.

In my ten years of being out of the closet, I got nearly beaten up twice. If I had gotten a € for every time I had to explain myself to someone or got told that I simply haven’t found the right man yet, I could afford really fancy wedding rings by now....come to remember that whole marriage right was given to me two years ago. Really shows how much people didn’t care, right?

By now I laugh at the look on people’s faces when I casually mention my fiancée, but there’s this lingering bad feeling that this person will go on a rant that these damned gay people have to shove their sexuality down everyone’s throat later on. Because fuck us for doing what straight people do all the damn time, without realizing it, because it’s the norm.

Yes people that go over the top exist. But most people do it because they’ve been in the closet for a while now. Hell, when I finally gathered enough courage to come out I wanted to scream that shit from the rooftops.

All you straight teenagers might be crushing on someone hard right now for the first time in your life. And you don’t need to worry about WHY you feel that way and if it’s right, all you probably worry about is wether these feelings are answered. But I’ll bet you that there’s some kid in your class that is laying awake at night worrying about their feelings for a classmate. Worrying about their future, asking themselves the same questions over and over and over again.

Is this right? Will it go away? Will I even find someone if it doesn’t? What will my parents think of me? My siblings? My friends?

Yes it got better. I’m glad that it became a way more acceptable thing by now and that it’s acceptable to talk it about it. Will some of your classmates still worry immensely? Yes. Will they worry even more if they see posts like these? Hell yes.

All I can tell you is to put yourself in someone else’s shoes before you judge.