We have both been open and talked about this issue. Within the last few years, both of our dads got very sick. His recently passed, mine will soon. Originally, we didn't put much stock in marriage but the whole incident has changed my mind. I see the hell its been dealing with health stuff while married; I can't imagine going through it without the legal stuff already mostly settled. It's been a fuck ton to process, so he isn't sure how he feels about getting married--especially after watching his mom be a caretaker to his father for years. It's not like we haven't discussed where we are at, but I can't expect him to know where he stands when neither of us are even 30 and coping with deep loss. But I also can't be patient forever now that I know what I want. Situation just sucks. For now, we are staying the course of just being supports for one another, but it's hard when I want my Dad to be around to see me engaged (and married, although that is most likely impossible). Just shitty timing.