No, by the fact that you wrote like 12 pages about it means that you are festering about it and letting it dominate your thoughts on an ongoing basis.

Because they just got back together and I will be seeing her again. Yes, she irks me. So I would like to know if I should or shouldn't be tolerating her behavior. You answered that.

"But teacher, she hit me first!" Be the bigger person, even if it sucks to do so. Why? Again, let her hang herself with her own rope, and it will only make you look better when compared to her if you can stay above the fray. I guarantee this is hard enough as it is for your BF, but if you can stay out of it you will save him a gang of stress.

I don't see why you're being so condescending. Dealing with her is my problem when she's directly attacking me. Other than that, it isn't my problem. I am not stressing him out, he doesn't like her regardless of my feelings. He defends me on his own merit, because he doesn't want to deal with her and doesn't like how she treats his brother. But thank you for assuming his stress is because of me.

And you keep fighting the advice I give you, which is be polite, smile, and stay the fuck out of it.

Where did I fight it? I said "Well I disagree that it 'isn't my problem' when she comes at me" and expressed frustrations. I never said "HEY I'M NOT GONNA DO THAT."

Give me a break, what are you in junior high? Why do you let this bother you so much? You are playing into her hands.

I never said it bothered me? It was mentioned to give insight into her insecurities. She tries to cut me out of his life through social media and real life.

Uhhh... don't flatter yourself, this girl is batshit crazy, you just end up in the cross-hairs sometimes. Her problem is not with you, its with any female not named Her.

It is with any female that isn't her, but I am such a constant point of contention because I am lumped in with his family and I am there to stay.