He doesn't have to change his behavior, I'm saying it would be considerate of him to do so. It's just the other way round, it's what I would do.

I think apologies make a difference. It changes my perspective of him. It changes how I view our entire relationship, how I view how I spent that two years of my life. I hate when other people tell me he's a shitty human being. I want to defend him because I know he's capable of not being that.

Do you want to know why I think he OWES me an apology? Why I DESERVE an apology? He screamed at me for cheating on him with my father when I told him that my father had been raping me since I was 12, and yes it had happened when I had returned home after freshman year and I was technically with him. He told me to call him and call him only when I cut ties with my family. I begged him not to make me do this, that my parents were the only family I had and he promised that I would have him. I did so. I tore my family apart, and my parents refuse to speak to me now. Three days later, he said he had had an epiphany and he didn't want to date someone who was 'broken'. After this happened, he started hooking up with another girl. Then a few weeks later he professed his love for me on a drunken night and when I said I didn't want to take him back, he hit me. He slapped me straight across the face onto the floor on the street. (This isolated incident he apologized for.) So then we started going to therapy together and now we have broken up because he has said he's stressed, and depressed, and it's my fault. If he had never met me, he wouldn't hate his life like he does now. He blames me for ruining his life. So if you agree with him, then I guess you're right. He doesn't owe me an apology.